2:08 How lockdown 2.0 is affecting Trish�s work schedule and life generally

The 18 � 25 seem to be the most affected age group right now

Interesting work with couples

3:10 Her route into psychotherapy

Former probation officer

Seeking more long-term impact with people who wanted to change

4:26 The role or purpose of a psychotherapist today

Women more likely to have therapy than men

Having a safe place to �download�

6:21 The role of routine in psychotherapy

Helpful to have a contact

Learning to create your own tools and resources

8:58 Common problems with communication

Issues with communication stems from fear

Learning to �put up a front�

10:58 The power of words

Externalisation: it�s not you

Renaming nightmares

12:37 What are the main issues couples tend to present at counselling?

Setting high expectations from your partner

Loss of romance and sexual connection

Using unhelpful language like �giving� or �taking�

Protecting each other by not bringing up topics

15:23 How couples and families can cope and give each other space when they�re in lockdown

Expressing anxiety by seeking comfort and reassurance, or by needing to be on their own

Understand how people express their anxiety

�Don�t judge your relationship on this time�

18:13 About her new book �#Love: 21st Century Relationships�

The reasons behind breakups

Practical advice for all people

Writing about sex and porn in an ordinary way

20:00 Why we need to be our whole ourselves before we enter a healthy relationship

Your partner isn�t responsible for fixing you

Long-term relationships stretch people

Making a decision and sticking to it

22:18 Life-lessons from failed relationships

�It takes a healthy person to want to be in a relationship�

Willingness to take risks

Instead of blaming yourself, learn from the experience

�We need friendships, we need relationships�

24:18 Having good judgement in assessing a potential partner

Listening to reliable people around you

Embody self-awareness

Listening to your excuses

25:47 We change ourselves, not our partner

Making it possible for other people to help out

27:11 Acting confident vs being confident

We all start self-confident as babies

Confidence gets blocked over time

Find the blocks and let go

Fear of being found out

Overcome one small fear a day, with communication

30:00 How confronting our small fears helps us overcome our biggest fears

We get too frozen when it�s too big

Through practice you get better at overcoming fears

Fear governs your conversations so much

32:41 How children choose friendships

Kindness equation

Things need to be fair

Small things over big gestures

35:52 Advice for online daters during a pandemic

Chance for more conversations

�Meeting Your Match� by Daisy Buchanan

Age is no limit

38:34 Having a long-distance relationship

Common to fight when finally meeting each other

Maintain the regular connection

�Fighting is a form of intimacy�

Building up expectations

41:52 Using the pandemic as an opportunity

Reduced external pressures

43:10 Healthy couple habits

Simple gestures like welcoming them home and having hugs

46:04 Why we seek long-term, stable relationships

Studies show people live longer and have higher levels of happiness if they�re in long-term a relationship

�It takes evolved people to stay and be successful in a relationship�

It�s developmental

In the UK, up to 40% of people live alone

Living alone for too long can be detrimental

48:06 Choosing to be single

People can be lonely in relationships, and love being on their own

50:05 Why people stay in abusive relationships

�The person who�s being abusive, that�s not the whole of them�

Responding to the abuser�s vulnerability

Getting stuck in patterns

The false belief that you can change them; they have to do it themselves

You�re at your most vulnerable when you�re about to leave

52:57 Dealing with turmoil and heartbreak

It�s grief and loss

�It�s takes much longer than you think�

Healing comes from a small, trusting group around you

54:32 Loss of physical love in happy long-term relationships

It needs to be addressed

Sex and intimacy can stop at a number of times

Often point of total commitment that it stops, such as marriage

It comes from habit

�I love you, but I�m not in love with you�

False fear of talking about it kills the passion

It takes homework and commitment

Can lead to affairs

57:09 Reasons why people cheat and have affairs

To make their partner �fight for� them

Mid-life crisis

It can lead to destructive blame-games

59:25 When should relationship education, including sex education, start? And for a parent what is the best approach?

We�re afraid for our children

�The best thing you can do for your child is to have reasonable relationship skills�

Sex education needs to be taught young

Young people want to learn how to get into a relationship

Create possibilities for discussion, not teach it

1:02:29 School�s role in teaching students practical habits to safeguard their mental health and well-being

Teenagers are very resilient

Increase in depression and anxiety in this age group

The government�s framework for mental health and suicide prevention

1:05:25 Does a lack of social life stunt a teenager�s growth into adulthood?

Danger of normalising being in your room the whole day

Increase in social anxiety

Lots of work will need to be done

1:09:02 Advice to parents for their kids during lockdown

Listen, not talk

�You can�t fix everything�

Teenagers retreat when they�re at home

Be more tolerant

1:11:37 �Psychological flexibility� instead of �resilience�

Words can be great to express ourselves, but they can be limiting

�Resilience� can be binary

1:12:51 The importance of attitude

It�s hard to change our habits, but it�s easy to change our attitude

�The Monday morning� attitude

Attitude influences everything that we do

It�s a choice

1:14:59 Key takeaways from Trish�s first book �The Challenge of Retirement�

Retirement opens up doors

�You have to practise now what you want to be good at�

What�s your identity for when you�re retired?

Interviewing her retired parents about their sex life

You are more than your job

1:18:33 The impact on society as people are living longer and working longer

65 � 75 year olds rate themselves as the happiest across the world

1:19:40 Reinventing yourself at retirement

Retirement is rarely discussed

Women traditionally go through more identity changes than men

Making your life meaningful

1:21:42 The role of a growth mindset during retirement

It�s not for everyone

Self-awareness and reflection

1:23:14 Representing and promoting mental health awareness and psychotherapy in the Irish media

Radio is the most intimate way

The need to have conversations

It makes a difference to people