3:30 Being close to nature

Helps to cope with lockdown

The psychology of green and blue colours

Sense of grounding and connectivity

A break from technology

Renewed appreciation for nature since Covid-19

Power walking in nature

The power of pause

12:30 What drew David to psychology

Attended at Jesuit school: �being a man for others� philosophy

Discovered his interest in writing when studying psychology

Pursuing clinical psychology

The role of psychology is to make it accessible to people

Working with teenagers

Humans are always searching for meaning

Working with people during lockdown

18:00 Building trust with teenagers

Make them feel heard

Empathy, tone of voice and reflective language

�If you feel listened to, you tend to talk more�

Difficulty of Zoom therapy sessions, e.g. eye contact

22:17 The success of his documentary �Bullyproof�

Won an IFTA

Made television programmes in the past

To provide a broader understanding of bullying

Toxic environment of social media

26:27 Creating the right environment for observational documentaries

Discrediting the Stanford prison experiment

Giving time for people to get used to the observational style

Help them to not put on a show

Filming �Teens in the Wild�

29:00 Advice for a child that is bullied, and advice or steps that parents can take if it happens

Explore the nature of the bullying: verbal, physical or online

A bully will always move to the easiest target

Ignoring and recording the online bullying

33:39 Long-term effects of bullying

Self-esteem comes from feeling loved and capable

A therapist helps review how people look at themselves

We often internalise someone else�s view of themself

Rebuilding self-esteem and capacity to deal with it

38:06 Helping to foster confidence in children and teenagers

Difference between confidence and self-esteem

�If you have high self-esteem, you will be confident�

Support through the quality of your listening

Helping them recognise their strengths and capabilities

Showing that mistakes are opportunities to learn, not criticise

41:38 The effect on people if they feel they weren�t loved when they were brought up

Theories of attachment: secure attachments come from trust, insecure attachments come from inconsistencies and lack of trust

When working with parents, David helps them return to being predictable and consistent

Dan Siegel�s �Flipping Your Lid�

44:59 Impact of attachment from all types of parenting roles, e.g. same-sex, father, etc

The principles are the same for all parents

Most research in the past has been focused on mothers, as they were the the most common primary caregivers

Mary Ainsworth�s research: it�s about what happens when re-attached, not seperated

Learning from his own experiences as a father

Children easily pick up their parent�s anxieties

�We need to feel that what we�re doing is working�

The calm vs frozen chicken analogy

Review your self-contradictions

56:02 What makes a �happy� child?

An emotionally literate child: what we really want is for them to regulate their feelings

Able to process negative emotions

Role of positive parenting

59:35 Disciplining a child

Being present with a child

Help them to avoid the need to punish their behaviour

Discipline them with natural consequences

�Harsh discipline methods are always damaging on children�

�Why is it important to you?� � it�s often about us trying to meet our own needs

1:06:40 How to support your child when they�re anxious

Provide the emotional infrastructure

Have the time and space

Parents are also very distracted

Empower them to regulate their anxieties

Enable to learn by themselves

1:13:10 What can we do, as parents, to help our children adapt and be successful?

What are your expectations?

Most common missing piece is being understanding in a kind way

Thomas Edison�s light bulb attempts

Culture of risk-taking and mistakes

�We have become risk-averse on behalf of our kids�

1:18:19 Role of empathy

Using empathy statements

It can often get confused with sympathy

�Willingness to see the person�s world�

Parents are too fixated on fixing the problems

Children disregard unasked for advice

1:25:32 How your relationship with your children changes

�Once they�ve gone past the baby stage, it�s about letting go�

Instil independence: that�s our goal

Give children a chance that they can be trusted

1:30:05 The striking the right balance between working from home together and being a family

Make a clear working space

�You just have to do what you can�

1:34:03 Impact of teenagers and children�s re-socialising post-Covid

The biggest impact is their best friend, not overall peer group

Very sensitive when intervening with a �bad� best friend

1:38:41 Launch of Headspace Ventures

Opportunity for young people to find their strengths in the outdoors

Both physical and mental activities